Your communication will reveal the kind of person you really are, because what comes out of your mouth is usually what's in your heart. If you truly desire to exemplify Christ you will seek to become a good communicator. Everything that Jesus Christ communicated was holy, clear, purposeful and timely.~Stuart Scott
We say a lot to those around us by the way we communicate with them. Everything that we say or do is an example to someone: our spouse, our children, our co-workers, unsaved family and friends... What message is it that we are sending? Is it one of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness and self-control? Or is it one of hate, anger, bitterness, lewdness, selfishness and strife?
Will an unsaved acquaintance walk away from a conversation with you and say "Wow, That person is always so kind, helpful, patient... I want what they've got!" Or will they walk away shaking their head saying, "If that's a Christian, I don't want to be one."
Does your spouse know you will always be there to listen and encourage them? Or do they feel their needs are a bother to you and therefore keep to themselves? Do your children feel free to come to you with their problems? Or do they avoid you because they are afraid of how you will react?
You can't rant and rave to your friend about the slow car in front of you and expect them to see patience; you can't tell a dirty joke to a co-worker and expect them to see goodness; you can't scream at your spouse and expect them to see love and gentleness; you can't fly off the handle and expect your children to learn self-control. When we become good communicators, not only are we setting the right example to those around us, but we, ourselves, are also growing in our relationships with others and our walk with the Lord.
A corrupt and unholy heart eventually will be exposed by corrupt and unholy speech... If the tongue is not controlled by God, it is a sure indicator that the heart is not, either.~John MacArthur